How to look and Act Confident, Even When you’re not.

it’s more than two dictates Mega Vision Trainings is committed to make the world a better place to live by providing and assisting individuals and companies to move to next level of their achievements. Series webinars on “Strategies for creating outstanding life” is one aspect of this striving to uplift society and increasing individual capacities. The above topic is a segment in this series conducted on 21 May, 2016. I thought to convert this audio/video webinar in the form of article so that who has missed it may recapitulate it. You may also go through the following recording.

It is obvious that every individual wants to become successful in his/her life, but only those individuals succeed in turning their dreams into reality who are confident enough needed to realize their dreams. On the other hand, the individuals who lack confidence never succeed in achieving their goals, so attaining confidence is required to accomplish the goals and fulfill the dreams.

The discussion can be what is confidence or any other topic linked to it, but the topic chosen is to make people aware about the techniques through which the confidence can be practiced and attained to become successful in life.

Confidence is something, on which a lot of researchers conducted researches, multiple philosophers wrote about it and individuals from the different fields of life gave their views and thoughts about it. But the issue which all the philosophies by the great minds and the thoughts shared by the individuals who had knowledge was that the solution given by them was not seem achievable as one cannot measure how much a person has improved and the status of the individual cannot be determined by following the guidelines given by the wise individuals including the philosophers and the researchers because we cannot see it. A person cannot know on which level he/she is standing, so a person is only said confident when he/she fully attains it.

Every individual can attain confidence because everyone has control of his/her life and he/she can do want is desired. A person can empower him/herself and until a person understands that he/she require working for his/her own benefit, no one can assist in attaining it. A person can only achieve confidence by his/her own efforts; no one is responsible for someone else’s confidence. Not the company where a person is employed and even not the parents.

The biggest Myth:

It is the main reason why people don’t make efforts and attain confidence because most of them believe on the myth “You have been born with allotted fixed confidence and you can’t do anything about it”. People believe that confidence is in genes and it is transferred to them that is why they can’t attain confidence. It is the biggest discovery of this century that confidence can be attained as it is a skill actually it is a learnt skill. We can take the example of a switch in a room on which we have control, we can make the lights on and off whenever we want. Confidence also works in the same way; a person has full control over gaining it.

Let’s Operationalize Confidence:

Confidence can be defined as “There is no such thing as “confidence”; there is only confident behavior” This definition give birth to confident thinking. When the behavior is linked with confidence, there emerges an amazing concept. The behavior makes confidence measureable as it can be seen through the walking style, way of talking and making eye-contact with the person whom you are communicating with. The paradigm is changed by proving that confidence is not present in genes and it doesn’t transfer from generation to generation, it is something that is achievable as it can be measured and one can see it.

Now we are directing the focus towards the behavior, “Confident people are people who are in the habit of portraying confident behaviors. The more you act confidently, the more confident you will become”.

The next thing is tricking your mind, “You start off faking confidence, and you actually trick your mind into thinking that you are a confident person. The more you fake it, the more genuine the confidence becomes”.

So, it is a fact “If you can fake it, you can make it”. It means a person who can learn the skill of faking confidence; he/she can become confident.

How does confidence look like? Gestures and Postures is the answer:

The first thing that comes in the behavior for acting confident is body language in which gestures and posters are included.

In a book written by Anthony Roman, he clearly said that a person must stand erect for looking and becoming confident. On the other hand, nothing needed for looking depressed and unconfident other than the bent shoulders and head. A researcher with the name of Avalon Pavilion also has similar belief than Anthony Roman, as he said that there is a link between you physiology with the confidence. If you stand straight, then the positive vibes comes to mind and if a person sits by bending his/her back or head, then negative vibes comes to the mind.

One can determine that a person is offering pray whole-heartedly or not by just focusing on his/her gestures and posture. Keeping an eye on the gestures while he/she is performing “Ruku” and “Sujood” is enough to know how much he/she is interested in worshipping.

Spiritual Linkage:

The individuals who are close to spirituality know that there is a divine power behind them who will bless everything to him/her. The confidence is embedded in this firm faith.

The main difference between a Spiritual and a Non-Spiritual person is that the non- spiritual think that they are on their own, but the spiritual person leaves everything on God as they believe that they can’t control their life to a limit. They have to ask God for everything they desire. So, a person needs to focus on the interconnection with the God.

Speak slowly and with confidence: “Confident people take their time when they speak, because they are confident enough to believe that you will wait to hear what they have to say. Don’t rush; pause, take your time, and be relaxed when you speak”.
“You always want to appear to be cool, calm and collected. The more nervous you are, the slower you should speak; speak as if you’re talking to a child. Speaking slowly will help you to regain your confidence”. Pause Before You Speak: “Nervous people try to fill every silent moment with meaningless chatter”.

Unconfident people when have nothing to say meaningful, they say anything which comes to their mind to give an impression that they are not dumb.

Confident people know how to act in the moments of silence and their confidence is shown by their gestures.

Facial expression and eye contact established by an individual while a conversation plays an important role in showing how much a person is confident, so establishing eye contact is vital for showing the confidence level.

It should be kept in mind:

It is not the task of confident people to make efforts to please every other person, the confidence lies in believing in the abilities. A person should be confident that he/she is created by God for a special purpose; there is a special space in this world for him/her. He/she should be confident that he/she is special, matchless and unique.

Ask yourself “Does a king try to please everyone?”

Confident people never try to please others because they know their worth like a King. A king never bows gesture for approval.

Power Dressing:

It is a fact that every individual communicates 90% with himself and only 10% with others. So; if a person dresses well, he/she feels confident and also show his/her confidence to others. Dressing requires to be focused to stay and feel confident. If we understand ourselves, then other will understand us.

Here is a great example which shows that of a person loves himself; others will love him too Dr. Robert narrated that his wife used to trims her hair regularly and when he inquired, she replied that she does it for herself, so that she can maintain and develop her self-concept. It is mandatory for a person to love him/herself to be loved by others.

If You Don’t Know, Say You Don’t Know:

“Confident people recognize that they can’t possibly know the answer to every question, and they are confident enough to let you know they don’t know”.

It is the trait of confident people that they never say that they know everything; instead they ask questions from the person with whom they are communicating to answer for clearing their confusion.

Benefits of confidence: A person can enjoy the inner peace
Success comes to those who are confident
Improved and long-lasting relationships
A confident person stays happy and healthy
Confidence brings satisfaction

Every person has everything through which he/she can attain confidence. So, why to wait? Starting today is a great idea. There is no need to manage time for reading the books or the written material for gaining confidence. There is also no requirement of sign-up. The only thing required is to turn ON the switch of confident behavior to attain confidence and act confident.

Assignment

Now it’s the time to elicit and model confidence Guru Mr. Imran Zahid. Call and take time from Mr. Imran Zahid of UMT, see and observe him practicing confidence. Try to unlock his behavior as observer that how his confidence is linked with his spirituality and how he behaves as interconnected with divine powers. Notice his confidence emended in his body language, gestures and postures. Observe him Speaking slowly and answering the question after a pause. Find him disseminating knowledge in a way that the other will understand. He will teach how to win the confidence of others that they can trust you. One can easily differentiate between the confidence and arrogance by his way of talking and his respectful behavior. He is a great example and true reflection that confidence and arrogance are two different traits and are extremely opposite. His massive power to say “I don’t know when he really don’t know” shows the high confidence level by which the you can learn how to act confident even when they are indecisive.

For more life changing material click our facebook page.