Summary of I like guys but I don’t want to be gay. How do I stop being gay?
- How do I accept myself for being gay?
- Will God accept you if you’re gay?
- Is being gay a choice or a feeling?
- What did Jesus say about homosexuality?
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Accepting your sexual orientation is a personal, gradual process that involves
letting go of shame, finding supportive communities, and embracing your authentic self to achieve happiness. Key steps include challenging negative self-judgment, utilizing resources like therapy or journaling, and connecting with LGBTQ+ peers to realize you are not alone.
Steps for Self-Acceptance
Validate Your Feelings: Understand that it is normal to experience fear, anxiety, or confusion initially. Remind yourself that you deserve happiness and that your sexuality is not a choice, but an inherent trait.
Journaling: Use a journal to explore your emotions, attractions, and desires, helping to normalize them for yourself.
Release Self-Judgment: Actively work to stop holding yourself to, or judging yourself by, heteronormative standards.
Professional Support: Consider therapy with a licensed, LGBTQ+-affirming professional to help navigate internalized stigma.
Building Support and Community
Find Your Community: Seek out LGBTQ+ affirming spaces, organizations, or social media accounts to see positive representations of gay life.
Connect with Others: Reach out to friends, family, or allies who are supportive.
Media and Culture: Immerse yourself in books, movies, and queer culture to feel more comfortable in your identity.
Actionable Tips
Practice Self-Affirmation: Try saying “I am gay” in the mirror to become comfortable with your truth.
Set Boundaries: Minimize time with people who do not accept your identity.
Go at Your Own Pace: There is no timeline for acceptance or coming out; prioritize your safety and mental health.
If you are struggling with intense negative emotions, reaching out to organizations like The Trevor Project or similar, or finding a local support group can provide valuable, safe, and affirming support.
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I like guys but I don’t want to be gay. How do I stop being gay?
Scientific research has shown that sexual orientation is not something that can be changed. Conversion therapies try to change one’s sexual orientation, but they have not been successful and in fact may be harmful. Several U.S. states and countries have actually banned conversion therapy. But don’t despair- speaking with a BC counselor or a LGBTQ-friendly advisor can help you work through the conflict that you are feeling.
There are many people you can safely talk to about your feelings and questions. You don’t need to be certain you are gay before talking to someone or attending an LGBTQ+ meeting. People who are questioning their sexual orientation are also welcome. There are some great BC groups where you can meet supportive peers. There are also Boston area groups if you prefer something off-campus. See BC resources: bit.ly/BCLGBTQ and area resources: bit.ly/ma-lgbtq
Thank you for being so supportive and for sharing your story honestly. BC is lucky you are here. I especially appreciate that you told others they are loved and important- so true! (I’m sorry I had to remove the post-it with contact info. I observe a strict anonymity policy to protect everyone’s privacy. I’m a public but very private wall.)