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“Passing” as a woman refers to
the ability of a transgender woman to be perceived by others as a cisgender woman in daily life. It involves conforming to societal, cultural, and gendered expectations of femininity through clothing, makeup, voice training, hair styling, and body language. It is a complex, sometimes contentious, topic often tied to safety and social assimilation.
Key Aspects of Passing
Physical Appearance: Utilizing makeup to soften features, styling hair, removing facial hair (laser/electrolysis), and wearing clothing that suits one’s frame (e.g., highlighting waist, minimizing shoulders).
Voice and Mannerisms: Voice training to adjust pitch, resonance, and, in some cases, adopting, socialized feminine mannerisms.
Body Contouring: Using accessories like padding or shapewear (e.g., bra, gaff) to create a more typically feminine silhouette.
Confidence: Carrying oneself with confidence is often cited as a key factor in how others perceive gender.
The Context of Passing
Safety and Socializing: Passing can be a safety mechanism against harassment, discrimination, or violence, particularly in, this article from TransHub and this article from WCMU Public Radio point out.
Internal Validation vs. External Pressure: While some pursue it for personal comfort, others view it as an unrealistic, often costly, pressure to conform to strict cis-normative standards, say Scarleteen and a Reddit user in this post.
Intersectionality: Experiences of passing can differ based on race, age, and cultural context.
Note: Passing is not necessary for a person to be a woman, and many in the trans community challenge the need to conform to these standards, according to a Reddit user in this post.
Passing (gender) – Wikipedia
Passing as female. Passing can involve altering the face and body to appear feminine. These alterations fall into two categories: …
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Passing as What? All About Passing Privilege – Scarleteen
Nov 8, 2018 — Key to this term in its original context is that it does not denote a value (e.g. when one doesn’t pass, one does not fail), but s…
Scarleteen
What does it mean to ‘pass’ as a transgender person? | WCMU Public Radio
Jun 30, 2017 — Passing is the ability to appear the way society expects a man or woman to look. For trans women, passing can mean conforming to s…
WCMU Public Radio
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Why ‘passing’ can be total rubbish
People often view transitioning as ‘you were one gender, and now you’re another one’. But that’s not really how it worked for me.
Passing is a term to describe when a trans person’s gender is recognised by the people around them. So if you’re a trans guy, ‘passing’ would mean that other people see you as a guy too. In theory it sounds like a pretty positive thing to aspire to, but the idea of passing goes a little deeper than that.
Passing can sometimes be used to pressure others (or even ourselves) to conform to other people’s expectations of gender, and this reinforces the idea that there’s a ‘right’ way to express gender, whether that’s male, female, or any other identity. That’s where it can become damaging.
Consider a young trans girl who’s just come out. The pressure to look or act a certain way is enormous. Unlike what advertisements might lead you to think, being a girl doesn’t necessarily mean having long hair, wearing skirts and loving Taylor Swift. Gender is an identity, not a physicality. There’s no one true way to look like a girl, boy or anything else.
When a person comes out as trans, it often means that they can finally begin to express themselves in a way that reflects how they’re feeling. The choices they make in terms of their hair, makeup, clothes and how they look are all types of expression, and often can be a tool to help convey to people around you what your gender identity is. This is what’s known as gender expression.
There are no strict rules to gender, and in a perfect world you should never feel pressured to look, dress or act a certain way in order to have your gender recognised by others.
But we don’t live in a perfect world, and society sometimes still has expectations around those identities and not everyone is ready or able to break down gender norms (nor should they have to).
I remember growing up and feeling that pressure to act more masculine. I tried to deepen my voice and sound more ‘like a boy’ because I thought that’s what others expected of me. When I came out as non-binary I felt guilty that I wasn’t shaving my legs, wearing more makeup and acting in a more feminine way.
Surrounding myself with likeminded friends was the most empowering experience though. As I saw others around me dressing and acting how they wanted without worrying if they were passing or conforming to other people’s expectations, I grew more confident and felt like I could do that too. It showed me that I’m happiest when I look and present in a way that reflects how I act naturally, not how others want me to act.
That includes learning that it’s okay to change your gender expression based on where you are and who you’re with. After all, feeling safe is an important part of being comfortable. I’ll probably dress more masculine when I walk down the street to my friend’s house, and there’s no shame in that.
No matter your identity, your only responsibility is to wear what you want, express how you feel, and be yourself in the way you feel most comfortable, empowered, and safe.